His reality

I find it amusing how you can *sometimes* give a guy an erection just by sitting on his lap. I guess some girls would find it a bit disgusting, but I just find it funny.

Has this happened to any of you? Did you try and hide it? How did it make you feel?

This topic is a bit more serious in nature, so I'm sorry if I'm bringing down the mood, but we are in need of some good advice. We are having an endurance problem with our current brand of condums. They are a leading manufacturer and during regular sex seem to work just fine. That is sex where the man just lets go and hopes that the woman can get her due on her own. However, lately when I have been required to use all of my effort to refrain the condom has been stretching until it breaks (prior to my eventual reward). When she finally allows release it does little to stop pregnancy. Spermicide aside, the condom is basically useless.

Never thought that as a so-called Red Blooded male, I'd find such pleasure in being Teased and Denied. My wife and I found out about it through a commercial website. Now we can't get enough information and ideas. She has mastered (or should that be Mistressed!) the art of tying my cock and balls up with string then using lube to bring me to the edge, over and over! Since I'm spreadeagled, I'm helpless and she loves it! Says she'll find a female to add to the wonderful humiliation I feel as they will watch me squirm with lust and desire.
As we are so new to this and we have just found this site, are there others out there who can give us advice on new tricks? My wife has offered to be a controller to 2 men much less fortunate than I on another site. Her mails with them turns me on too as I get the best of all worlds. They have to live their fantasies out on line.

I know this is primarily a site for female orgasm denial but I thought some might enjoy this story.

I had a brief relationship with a guy during my senior year of High School. He was a total shithead but was so hot. He treated me like garbage the whole three months we went out. He rarely wanted sex with me, just a handjob or blowjob.

When we would have sex I would never get to cum. Not because he had an orgasm denial fetish but because he was a selfish jerk that usually shot his wad in 30 seconds and pulled out, stuck his dick back in his pants and left me horny.

So one day we were both feeling horny and I asked him if he wanted to have sex. He said he just wanted a handjob. I asked him if he wanted a blowjob instead and he had the nerve to tell me that I didn't know how to suck dick properly and to just get busy with my hand. I was so humiliated and mad. In my mind I decided that I was going to leave him but not before I gave him his precious hand job. (Evil Grin)

I and my girlfriend sometimes like to get involved in T&D periods, during which I'm not allowed to orgasm and she teases me very badly in few sessions per day. The maximum I have resisted is 8 days.

When I'm finally allowed a release, our sexual activity continues for few weeks with normal orgasms until the next T&D period (usually once a month or so).

Now I have few questions to submit to who of you having more experience:

1) Since we often fantasize about prolonging the T&D periods to two weeks (initially), then to one month, is there any way I can "train" to achieve this goal which seems impossible to me?

Tell us about the last tease of your vanilla life. The one that really cemented in your head your love of denial. Not the first tease memory you've had, but the thing that made your fetish 'official'.

For me, it was this somewhat younger girl. We were just flirting online, and turning each other on, but we (I think she) came up with the idea of having me tell her how close to climax I was by simply typing a number in the message window, 1 being not aroused, and 10 being "having an orgasm". She would modify her instructions based on how hot I was, or send me certain pictures at the last second.

I usually don't post here as the idea of a dominant guy (or girl) teasing me is what ultimately excites me; however, just sometimes it is fun to turn the tables andwatch someone else do the squirming and to take pleasure in maximising their delicious sexual suffering!

I was somewhere in my late teens and on holiday with my parents in Mallorca. I don't remember much out of the ordinary happening. I spent most of my time at the beach or at the hotel pool making friends and flirting with cute guys.

However, one guy I met on that holiday was called Paul. He was the same age as me and quite good looking, but he was always trying to play the tough guy and has a really cocky streak in him. Nevertheless, after a few days we ended up kissing one night at the local disco. One of the first things I noticed about him was how easily he got an erection. We had just started kissing on the dancefloor and I could feel something hard press against my tummy. I whispered in his ear and teased him about it. He looked quite embarrassed and frustrated that I was making fun of him, but that didn't stop him trying to kiss me even harder. I found this perversely amusing so continued to tease him about it for the rest of the evening and it was fun to see the facial expressions he made.

So me and my wife have entered a brave new sexual adventure together - we've decided to devote ourselves entirely to pleasuring her. She is the sole focus of all of our sexual energy, and she is the only outlet for our passion. From now on, orgasms are only for her. I am to be kept aroused, teased, and permanently frustrated.

How did we get here? We started to explore tantric sexuality as a way to bring more passion into the bedroom. One of the precepts of tantra is that the male must not ejaculate, to save his sexual energy. Once you master the control of ejaculation, you are supposed to be able to learn to have an orgasm without ejaculation. Well, this wasn't working for us, and I would end up masturbating anyways, which depleted all of that saved energy. So we decided to spend an entire month focusing on her pleasure instead, using tantric techniques to enhance her orgasms. The goal was for us to learn how to enjoy sex without ejaculation, then to learn how I could orgasm without ejaculation.

Any ideas on avoiding blue balls in males? I’m giving a talk about T&D today and one of the questions that keeps coming up is can one find a way to tease without having that particular form of discomfort?

Okay, I said in my very first post on this site months ago that I had a story about me teasing a guy. I've debated posting it for a while and decided to post it. If the owner of the board chooses to take it off, that's cool.

As I've said Andrea and I are office workers at a bottled water company. A few years ago we had a guy named Rich that worked there. He was kinda cute and was always hanging out at my desk. This went on for at least a year. I thought he really liked me. Anyway, he and Andrea became good budies. Always taking breaks together, etc. He didn't know Andrea and I were roomates. So one day he confided in her.