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Here are a few things I was looking at today while idling online with some Google searches. Rather interesting things come to mind from each of these, which I haven't the energy to elaborate upon tonight. That said, this entry might serve as a reminder for me to write about these things more in the future.

Orgasm Pill: A problem or a solution for women? is an iVillage.com article that (probably unknowingly) asks some interesting questions in regards to the male role in a future where women can orgasm on-demand. Specifically, what use is the man for a woman when her sexual appetite is satisfied by other means?

Dovetailing off the previous article, an article on Heretical.com called The Science of Sex: Glenn Wilson on Female Orgasm as a Luxury asks the question, "Why do women cum anyway? And why is it so engrained in men?" Obviously, while scientifically valid, my interests are more carnal and this can be spun to make an argument for female orgasm denial just as easily as it can be spun into an argument for female domination and male sexual torture techniques. After all, why should women orgasm if they never have to? And conversely, it is even more fantastically powerful to deny men of such hardwired biological and physical instincts when providing women with identical things are, for them, "luxuries."

And speaking of denying orgasms, About.com has a rather politically correct article on just what orgasm is, anyway. It even has a whole section devoted just to male sexuality, on which there is an article about the types of male orgasm. I guess these are mostly just useful for corroborating the wealth of evidence regarding the male anatomy, but it is probably nothing new to readers of this blog.

However, such an intimate understanding of the male orgasm is useful when figuring out how to (safely) sadistically pervert the event for the male. This activity has a ton of names: ruined orgasms, no/low-pleasure orgasms, etc.. The basic concept is predicated on the fact described in the above links whereby male orgasm and male ejaculation are actually distinct events that can be separated from one another, and is thus most psychologically effective as a means of sexual sadism when used on a male unaccustomed (or unaware) of this. Physically, however, this can be used to deny pleasurable release to any male or even turn the event of ejaculation into something horribly painful. However, since we are dealing with the denial of sensation it seems that most men agree that the "abandoned orgasm" is the most torturous form of this sadism. (And, what's the difference between a ruined/no-/low-pleasure orgasm and an abandoned orgasm, you may ask. The latter is a kind of the former, and the former is a collective term encompassing the latter, as well as additional techniques.) I have to admit that I am so interested in the abandoned orgasm sensations that I want to talk to my girlfriend about adding something like that to my consequences for accidental orgasms.

Finally, one of the more humurous links I came across today was the one discussing Orgasm Denial on the Farm from Down On My Knees, a weblog I'm definitely going to check out more often. The twist on this entry is that it actually links to an article about the practical uses for teasing and denial in the realm of animal sperm collection. I also must admit that this has been a secret fantasy of mine for as long as I can remember. It combines many facets of differing fantasies, from being treated as an animal to being teased and denied orgasm, to being objectified and used for some alternative purpose. Though the exact form shifts from time to time, the theme is the same: I am kept forever chained and hooked up to a machine in some factory-like sperm production center where dominants (of both sexes) ensure I am nourished and actively producing my product for them by keeping me continually aroused. When they deem necessary, or perhaps on a schedule (once a week, once a month?) I am brought over the edge to orgasm and ejaculation so many times in succession that they have collected every single drop of ejaculate I can produce by the end of the session. And then the cycle repeats itself.

In reality, waiting too long between ejaculatory sessions actually results in a less-than-ideal sperm production since many sperm cells will have died already, but in the fantasy that either doesn't matter (perhaps they are after seminal fluids?) or isn't the case (perhaps they are nourishing me with some drug that counteracts or prevents this from happening?). In either case, I am seen as a commodity; I am one of many helpless male beings subjected to this ongoing existence. But even then, I am looked upon favorably, perhaps because I produce very well?

Anyway, that's more than enough fodder for next time. I would be remiss not to mention last night's experience, though, which I am extremely proud of. My girlfriend asked me to serve her dinner and so I made her dinner-to-order, which was a grilled cheese sandwhich made with salami and cheddar on german bread, served with a side salad and a mixed drink, and chocolate-covered marzipan on peach-flavored dark milk chocolate squares covered in whipped cream for dessert. She was specific about some things as always, but I often strive to "kick it up a notch" when I can, like this time.

As a reward for serving dinner so well, she allowed me to service her orally. (I absolutely melt between her legs. I love her scent and taste, and even though I go down on her often, she knows I'd love to do it even more.) I was thrilled (already incredibly horny), but was also already in the mood to try and do a really good job. She pulled out a book and began to read as she relaxed into her chair and as I lowered myself to her. Shortly after we got started, she relocated us to our bed and really got into it. So did I, and it wasn't long before I was humping the bed from my own arousal.

She doesn't normally do so, but this time she told me to stop moving and focus my attention on what I was doing with my mouth and my tongue. I did. Her vocal feedback helped, and I followed her instructions dutifully and enthusiastically. The result was that, tor the first time ever, I managed to give her an orgasm purely with my oral ministrations! It was a fantastic feeling.

She took a long time to recover, and by the time she did I was laying by her side curled up by her waist, my arms wrapped around her leg. She moved her hand to her clit, rested her elbow on my head, and started to masturbate herself to another orgasm. She came another four times like that, and we were both glowing with satisfaction by the time she was done. It was an incredible experience for me; it was the strongest, most pronounced sensation of pleasure attained vicariously I've ever felt, and I loved it. I was unimaginably aroused, but also amazingly calm and fulfilled, and we fell asleep smiling in each other's arms.

I still haven't cum (it's been six days now), but I've edged every single night since last week and I'm incredibly horny. Last night, I was calm because I pleasured her, but every other night I find my hands wandering over my genitals seemingly of their own accord and my hips involuntarily humping the mattress in bed. I can't wait to taste her again.
Zen's avatar

Nice

I love what you wrote about the calmness that can accompany the neediness. And vicarious pleasure... beautiful.

I've got a bit of the calm feeling now - has been nearly a week for me - longest ever. I hope this feeling lasts... Wish I could experience the vicarious pleasure part. Smiling
lucy_k's avatar

Thanks for the lovely description of you with your girlfriend.

I agree with Zen, that was a wonderful account of your time with your girlfriend. You seem like a very caring and loving man. Your girlfriend is lucky.

I also liked the links you provided. I'm familiar with the theory that female orgasm is an unnecessary "cross over" from male orgasm. Men's bodies have needless nipples and women's bodies have needless orgasms. It sounds right to me. In fact, this idea figures into the reason why I like being denied. It seems to me that at its biological roots orgasm is a male thing. Thus having an orgasm is not feminine. It's unnatural for a woman to have orgasms just as it is unnatural for a man to nurse a baby. I understand that most people wouldn't agree with this, and that's perfectly fine. Yet, I've long had the idea... even if I didn't always admit it... that it is not appropriate for me to have orgasms.

Scared to read

I have managed to escape actually reading the links here as of yet. I'm dying to know what's there, but I'm also scared to read them because of the sexually enhancing content rule my Mistress has. If it's good stuff, she will use it on me, and well maymay I usually see good stuff in your posts. I'm not ignorning this post, just saving it for last when I don't run short on time here.

Thanks

Smiling Thanks, lucy.

Actually, I don't really disagree with you much at all. I havn't the evidence to say that female orgasm is nothing but a crossover from maleness, but if that were the whole truth and nothing but the truth, it wouldn't surprise me. That should not be confused with any lack of love of (specifically) the female orgasm, however, as I've often had way more fun experiencing those in whatever way I can than I ever have experiencing the male orgasm. After all, that's what half this post is about.

However, there is a part of me that has serious clit-envy, if you will, for multiple reasons not least of which is the ability to forego orgasm indefinitely. That is something I want very badly and, as I have not yet managed to successfully drain myself through a milking technique like prostate massage, I don't know if it's ever really attainable. (And perhaps I should mention more specifically, pleasureless prostate massage, since my "fires" are often incredibly stoked when I experience that stimuli.) You girls are lucky; you have both extremes available to you, cumming as much or as little as you want, whichever way you happen to swing. Eye-wink

-maymay

Thanks

Thank you, Zen. The calm is amazingly soothing and enjoyable, isn't it? But I wouldn't wish it for myself all the time. Eye-wink I like the frenzy, the struggle, and the challenge too much. I would rather sob and shake from sexual frustration and tension than feel serenly aroused. But then, that's just me. Smiling

-maymay

Some more links

Heh, thanks.

On that note, I was, shall you say, inspired to do some more searching, so I found these links of interest. I figure this is just as good a place as any to record them for future web surfing. Smiling

First, I checked out more of Down On My Knees and noted that the submissive male who maintains that blog is submissive to the slightly more well-known Sensual Sadist. Her blog is also very insightful and very interesting. Reading the two together makes clear what a loving relationship that couple has and is a real pleasure.

From somewhere in there I found FemDom Blogs.com, which seems to be its own linkblog focusing on femdom topics, everything from newsgroup excerpts to other blog posts. I found this description of milking captivating. Oh, and let's not forget that New Yorker article on the next-generation arousal stimulant nasal-spray, PT-141!

From elsewhere on that same blog, I also found this very lucent and opinionated article on cuckoldry. I have yet to read it due to time and energy constraints, but I am definitely returning here to read it as I am always one to research risk before attempting it. Especially when it involves heavy emotional submission.

And speaking of emotional submission, the absolutely incredible writings of Miss Babydoll include an extremely well-written (and kind of scarily exciting) essay on what she calls Applied Evil in Female Domination that, for me, makes more points about play in general than any one act. All her essays are fantastic. So are the pictures. Smiling

-maymay

Milking it dry

is possible for me. It takes about four to five really full loads of ejaculate. I haven't yet, but I wonder what would happen if I got that far with my current rule set. I'd be in a perpetual orgasmless stroking with no way out until exhaustion overcame me. I have now read your post and links and will be telling the mistress of my learning experience. I shudder at the thought of what I'm going to be asked to do. Btw, I have "abandonded" orgasms daily as that is the only true non-orgasmic ejaculation by our rules. I also have to use willpower to hold back the spams as it comes out. That's the hardest part, and where the minigasms come from.
lucy_k's avatar

Not so easy.

Well, foregoing orgasm indefinitly is not so easy as you make it sound. At least that's not my experience! But yes, I can see that it might be important medically for men to have orgasms periodically... or at least ejaculations. In contrast I've never heard any suggestion of potential medical complications for a woman who never has orgasms. On the other hand I could see there being emotional and psychological complications for either gender. I'm 18 days denied now and it is definitely starting to drive me crazy.

Ah, but be honest now, aren't

Ah, but be honest now, aren't you enjoying the "complications" you've raised by denying yourself for 18 days. Eye-wink

Seriously though, I do hear what you're saying. My point is simply that the fantasy of the possibility of an orgasmless existence is not so tempered with physiologically sound medical advice for a woman who never cums as it is for a man who does the same. As with most things, my body and mind are conflicted on this, as mentioned in my post.

And congratulations on succeeding in holding back your orgasm so admirably for 18 days. I'm really impressed; today will only be day 11 for me and I'm beginning to feel the pressure, so to speak. Your determination is inspiring. I hope you succeed in continuing your denial indefinitely.

-maymay

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