O Control/Release Training by gina

Long time, no post from you, XR_S.

I liked this article, all the way. It was congruent with my taste.

This part was very interesting:

He taught me not to think about the orgasm that i might not get but to enjoy the arrousal. Prior to His training i had always been concentrating on the expected orgasm and not the feelings that came before the release. i am not sure i could have even told you before what those feelings were like. i was fixated on the release.

That is something I learned from Tobby/Torbjoe. I was always fixated on getting to the orgasm, or not. He taught me to savor the pre-orgasm feelings.

It might be a good article to give as reference when they start another thread on bondage.com about it.

It's interesting to note her making a differentiation between orgasm denial and orgasm control. Is it all just semantics? If I get highly stimulated and I'm not allowed to have an orgasm, I call that denial! Even if I'm allowed the next day. But I can see peoples' point when they want to say that is just delay or control. I feel pretty DENIED at the time! But I guess overall, it's not "really" denial.

Thanks again for posting it. I enjoyed reading it.

GND

Just thought that I would raise my hand and admit to being the 'master' to gina at that time she wrote that article.

First I need to explain a couple of points. At the start she says that we considered denial to be unhealthy, and then goes onto say that we had a limit of 1 month on denial. Basically she was saying that we felt that long-term or permanent denial to be unhealthy. Obviously this will vary from person to person but we found that there reaches a point where prolonged denial goes from an exciting challenge to an exercise in frustration that can cause mood swings, emotional distress, lack of sleep and loss of concentration - especially at work. Thus we established a limit of a month as a maximum period of denial - and even that was very rarely reached.

We also found that with prolonged denial (but before it turned into frustration) there was a point where being teased and then denied became 'easier'. The body starts to adjust to its new situation of not cumming and we both preferred a situation where it was kept at a level of exquisite 'torture' and the maximum challenge of resisting an O. Allowing an O made sure the body did not go through this adjustment.

We also found that the teasing was most effective if she never knew whether she would be granted an O at the end of it or not. Being teased when she knew for certain that she would not be allowed to cum did not give her the same incentive to want to be held on edge.

Teasing and denial, while a very exciting and enjoyable form play in itself, was also a part of the training used to help get to being able to orgasm-on-command without any arousal. Once this was achieved, it was also possible to have her on edge, have a small O, have a large O, stop an O just after it started, mave multiple Os and even to have non-stop Os until I commanded her to stop - all from verbal command and no physical arousal - and this is what we called 'Orgasm control'.

Now I appreciate that what gina wrote and my additional points above are a variation from your main theme here, so please understand that it is not a criticism of the tastes of those here, but hopefully of some interest because of the areas of similarity.

I also make the point that its a description of what worked for us and thus our opinion about the tastes and how they applied to us. LOL ... that saves me going thru and placing IMHO into most sentences

I am happy to discuss any aspects of this if you have any questions.

Best regards

Brosco

Very interesting comments.

"...there was a point where being teased and then denied became 'easier'."

I was actually wondering about that today, along with the bit about mood swings, loss of concentration, etc.

I'm not even at two weeks this time, but I have been fairly rigourously denied for most of the last 3 months(since March 9th): lots of teasing and edging, and orgasms you could count on one hand, I think?

Maybe I'm due for a spate of repeated orgasms to get me back to "normal" instead of adjusting to the teasing, arousal and no orgasm... ??? hmmm.. Sounds very good about now...

It's nice to hear from the other half of the equation, Brosco.

GND

Just a quick reply to say I don't think these contributions are "off topic" *at all.* Thanks for posting them--I think they fit right in.