Something I was reminded of recently: an entry from a series of postings made from 1991-1993 on alt.sex.bondage, by a woman using the alias "Nurse Jones." The series discussed her and her fiancee's explorations of B&D ("The List," as she called it, referred to a list they'd made of things they wanted to try.) Much of their play involved sexual control in some form, though this is the most explicitly denial-related piece she wrote. Most of the series is
here, the rest was posted to the same newsgroup under a variety of accounts.
At any rate, in this particular entry her fiancee, Jay, uses T&D as a means to overcome her reluctance to admit that she enjoys and wants to be helpless and controlled.