Hello Lurkers

I have always enjoyed that feeling of being 'on the edge' and implored my partners to not to make me come too fast - but i really didn't realise just how sub i was until i embarked on a long distance relationship.

I met the guy in question through online gaming, and we became close friends and confidants (is that how you spell it?), as we were both going through divorces.

We could 'flirt' in the game using the actions & emoticons provided in the game, and gradually our private chat became steamier.

We were both open about sex, and soon began to cyber in msn - I would describe teasing his cock with light strokes, and tiny nibbling kisses, while he told me how hard he was, how purple his cock head was and that it was weeping pre-cum. He returned the favour by telling me how he would tease my nipples with strokes, scratches, gentle bites & sucks. He would describe how he would kiss down my belly, and stroke my thighs, never quite touching where i needed him to be. By this time my pussy would be leaking my silky fluids, my clit beginning to throb & tingle, and sitting still on the office chair was becoming quite difficult.

We would carry on with our descriptions until we both came - very enjoyable, but it is difficult to type & stimulate yourself at the same time, and all you have is your partner's description of their orgasm.

We eventually met after about 3 months of this cyber play - and the sex was explosive to say the least. It was during this visit that he discovered my sub tendancies, and from that moment i was lost - and my sexual pleasure was handed over completely to him.

Returning home, we invested in webcams, set up so that we could both see each other in bed. I also invested in some nipple clamps as i found out that he wasn't bragging when he called himself the Nipple Master.

Most evenings, we would cyber using the webcams, with him directing my every move. So many times I was taken to the edge, only to be told to take my hands away from my weeping pussy and throbbing clit, and play with the clamps to distract myself. Sometimes he would let me come, but at least twice a week i was made to wait overnight - self discipline has never been my strong point, but i obeyed my master and slept with my legs open, dildo inside, stretching my aching pussy, and hand kept away by pure willpower.

We managed to physically see each other about evey six weeks, but in the final week before our meeting we made a pact not to come. Every night he would tease me to the edge, just to let me down, again & again & again. being able to see how horny i was turned him on so much, abd during our sessions he would show me the cock that i wanted so much - swollen, throbbing, with teardrops of pre-cum leaking from the tip - god I wanted to taste that so much.

When we did meet next time it was for a 2 week holiday together, he had invested in a set of heavy duty leather wrist & ankle restraints - along with a HUGE black vibrating dildo that we called 'Big Jim'. For my part, I had invested in a Button Toys Oyster for me, and an Octopus for him. we had so much fun teasing each other in public with those remote control toys. Much more difficult for him to hide his excitement ofc, which just heightened mine . Luckily for me, the vibrations on my clit weren't enough to take me to orgasm, but he kept me horny and wanting the whole time we were together.

At the end of the fortnight, we were broken - never thought i would see the day when i just couldn't cope with more sex and orgasms - my poor battered pussy was like a blood orange.

Hope that this entry has given you an insight into how I became such a lover of T&D - sorry that i can't write such steamy descriptions as some of you, but i will try to do better with any future adventures

Girlxx

That sounded plenty steamy to me! Worthy of my own posts even!

I've never really been into the BDSM angle, but the thought of 'mild' bondage (besides the T&D) sounds like fun. I think I could get into cuffs and spankings. Of course, I'm a switch at heart, so if I had an girl we'd take turns doing it to each other ^_^

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Just a fool trapped in the body of a genius.

Been trying to get a link up to some Hentai Tease/Denial vids I found on tinypic.com, but for some reason my post won't appear. Is it just that I have to wait, or what?

Nothing is as melancholy as a battle lost... except a battle won.

-Napoleon

If you posted it to the weblinks section I think Reynard has to approve it before it shows up. Sometimes it takes a few days.

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Just a fool trapped in the body of a genius.

That's where I was posting it, but it never showed up at all. I don't know why. Either way, the link is in my personal blog now, if anyone wants it.

Nothing is as melancholy as a battle lost... except a battle won.

-Napoleon

GG - lovely to hear you come out (at last?)with your experiences. While all these stories about self denial can be exciting there is nothing like having a partner who knows how to edge you - because then you don't have control over it at all. You have inspired me to add a little more to this site about experiences and fantasies

Thanks Ripple.

I have a partner, but haven't broached the subject of T&D with him yet.

Keep your fingers (and everything else) crossed for me, that i get a positive response when i do bring the subject up :s

I'm not so sure just how well I'll fit in here. I'm not so much into denial as such, but I love to edge multiple times before I finally cum. I find it makes it so much more intense. I'd actually say more like explosive.

I don't normally talk openly about stuff like this, but although I have sex with someone fairly regularly, I still love to be aroused more often and often masturbate, including edging for as long as I can stand it. I can see that these things are different for others, but I simply can't sleep at night if I don't give myself a climax. I love to be aroused to as close as possible for hours each night before this, and in recent months I've been sitting at the computer watching hours of porn, or other stuff, and trying to hold off till I just can't stand it any more.

I was starting to think I must be weird or something, and then I found some stuff about edging, and then more stuff about orgasm control, and now I see that there are others who get into maybe similar stuff.

I've got to admit, I still feel kind of strange sitting here, squirming in my seat, with a wet patch in my knickers, trying to be as normal as possible even though I've just been watching some vids, and typing to the world telling about it. In one sense I feel kind of dirty and guilty, but in another its actually kind of liberating to have found a place where I can actually say such a thing.

It's like pervs anonymous.
SUE: "Hi, I'm Sue and I'm a perv."
PERVS: "Hi, Sue!"

Have fun! Maybe if you show your significant (or insignificant?) other this site you'll start having sex a little more irregularly instead of just "regularly."

So you'd be a perv too then?

Without going into too much detail she's not really a significant other. In fact she's actually married, but enough of that. I don't have a very good record when it comes to maintaining relationships. There is some very good reasons for this, but I don't think this is the right place to discuss such things. So actually I have sex with her at least once a week, sometimes twice, and occasionally I get lucky in between, but most of the time its just me and my own two hands. I won't say I prefer it that way, but at least I can still give myself a whole heap of pleasure.

There are obvious advantages to having a partner, but I've yet to meet the person who can make it last as long, or turn me into a dribbling quivering mess the same way that I can do it to myself.

Gnarlygirl and Sue, I loved reading your posts. Sue, you'll find that as you learn more about T&D you will become very addicted to it. Jester - Thanks for starting the post Jester. Here's a little bit about me:

I came across this site recently, tried to create an account and found out I already had one. Guess I just lurked before and forgot about it. I'll take this opportunity to give a little introduction.

When I first learned of T&D I thought it was strange but soon I found myself sucked into it and loving it. I started out doing web teases and played around with a few people online. Then I got the nerve up to ask my wife to try teasing and denying me. I was surprised that she agreed to give it a try.

That was several years ago and since then we it's been a roller coaster ride for me. She pretty much took ownership of my cock and has done some pretty intense teasing and domination. I've been denied 4 or 5 weeks at a time, been made to wear cock rings under my clothes, and required to give her foot massages regularly. I've loved every minute of it.

It's a rollercoaster because at times she just stops dominating me. I'm in one of the downturns now. It's been about 2 months since we've even had any type of sexual contact. It sucks and is a bummer for me. For the first time in about a year I started masturbating again. With my new freedom, I'm thinking about experimenting with the domne side for a little while. This would be online ofcourse because my wife would never let me domme her. So if there's any females out there who want get some teasing from a newbie on the domme side, drop me an e-mail.

JoeyD, you should confess your born again masturbation habits to your wife/Mistress, preferably on your knees while giving her a foot rub. Perhaps it will give her the kick she needs to start teasing and dominating you again.

*RD*

That sounds like a lot of fun! I wish I had a partner that was into T&D. Too bad the wife wouldn't let you dom her... a happy switch couple is one of my favorite fantasies. Hopefully you'll find someone online to play with. I'm sure you'll find the dom side a lot of fun too

I'm kind of in the opposite situation... looking for a girl to tease me. Actually, I'm looking for a girl that wants to both tease and be teased, in a completely vanilla way. (If you can call T&D 'vanilla', heh) That is, without any actual dominance or submission (other than taking control of orgasm!) or any other aspects of BDSM play. But the kind of vanilla T&D I'm looking for seems to be almost non-existent. It sometimes seems like I'm the only person in the world that's into it. The consensus of people I've talked to online seems to be that vanilla denial is like Jimmy Hoffa's body. Everyone is sure to exist, but nobody knows where to find it.

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Just a fool trapped in the body of a genius.

I must be Jimmy Hoffa, then, because I definitely prefer vanilla. Not that I don't enjoy BDSM play also, but it's not what I'm really interested in -- what I want is the teasing, and the BDSM is just one way to do it.

Jester - I am very lucky that my wife got into the T&D. Doing it with someone you are close with makes it so much more fulfilling.

You say you are into Vanilla T&D. If you happen to stumble across the right girl, then trust me, you won't be vanilla much longer. You'll be like a rainbow sherbert doing all sorts of things. T&D does that to you. The combination of constant denial and feminine power makes you weak and willing to do just about anything. IT's a wonderful experience. There are things I've done, which 5 years ago I would have never imagined myself doing.

Good luck in your search.

Radios Dom -

You are so right. I'm just so bad right now. She is out of town today and will not be back until tommorrow. I've already masturbated once and I even watched a porn earlier today. I will masturbate again tonight. Guess I'm wild and out of control right now. Too much freedom after being denied so long. hee. hee.

I will confess when the time is right. Until then the naughtiness continues....

Hardly ever posted (if ever).

I just registered today but I've been lurking for a while. Started out reading the past posts because of the good stories and other stuff posted.

Anyways I did have a good t&d relationship with my girlfriend. Would usually tease me whenever we did anything sexual and a couple times had me go "no touch" for a week or so, meanwhile she would tease me whenever we met up during the week in between classes, going out for lunch, or just hanging out. Of course she never let me forget how much she "enjoyed" thinking of me horny without relief by sending me pictures over the phone of her playing with herself.

My favorite denial moment was when we went out dancing one night (not much of a dancer but she had her way of getting me to go) and she started griding up against me turning me on very much and she felt it so she turned around and started groping me and asked me if I was turned on and when I said yes she said if I didn't behave and dance with her the rest of the night then I wouldn't be able to "take care of myself" when I got home. She put plenty of effort the rest of the night into teasing me. Then when I got home and started talking to her she said I had impressed her with my behavior and could play with myself and cum when I wanted to... however as we continued talking she happened to find out that I had played with myself that morning while she was sleeping and had an accident without permission... so there went my privilege of cumming for that night, and then she informed me that I wasn't allowed to touch myself at all for a week, during which she teased me pretty good too. Most arousing night of my life.

Anyways we broke up a week or more ago so that's all in the past now, hence my ironic choice of my name. Nice to finally join tantalism, maybe I'll get around to posting some of my other "adventures" sometime.