How important is being made to feel embarrassed/ashamed about your arousal to getting aroused.
Not at all. It does nothing for me.
37% (17 votes)
I like to be teased about being turned on, but other things work for me.
30% (14 votes)
It's really quite important to me, I should be ashamed of my arousal.
11% (5 votes)
Massively. I'm wet reading this, and now everyone knows how degradingly wet I am.
22% (10 votes)
Total votes: 46
Comments
I think it may be cultural
I wish the data showed where the voters are from.
In my experience, people who came of age sexually in conservative cultures where there are strict rules and deep shame about sex and its open display, tend to have strong erotic connections to humiliation.
The few women I've played with who LOVED humiliation were from: the UK, the bible belt of the deep south of the USA, and the conservative southwest of the USA.
Most women I've played with have had no interest at all in humiliation, and came from relatively liberal upbringings and cultures. Small dataset, but that's the correlation I've seen.
So much t&d erotica includes
So much t&d erotica includes long digressions about humiliation, and I just skip those parts. I can't even say whether it would do anything for me to feel humiliated about my arousal because I've just never felt that. If anything, I've always felt happy and lucky to be responsive. It's hard for me to imagine what it would be like to feel ashamed.
I feel the same as you. It's
I feel the same as you. It's odd that most of the votes are for #1 but most of the posts seem to focus on humiliation. I have no problem with anyone getting off on being someone's little cumslut. It just doesn't do anything for me - or apparently about 50% of the people who answer polls here. For me it's about extending feelings of arousal as much as possible with a side order of giving up control. Once I choose to give up control I have to live with the consequences, but it doesn't add anything to be shamed for it.
I don't want to be humiliated
I don't want to be humiliated by the person I love, even though as far as fantasy goes it's a huge turn on for me. But from my husband, it would sort of feel like a stab in the back - he triggers my arousal then makes me feel ashamed about it. It'd make me feel insecure and hurt instead of more aroused I imagine. But again, we can't all like the same stuff.
I voted for #4...
I voted for #4...
Somehow...
Somehow... I knew you would. ;-)
I voted for #1. I really just
I voted for #1. I really just want to play.