Newbie - please be gentle with me :)

Personally, I love enjoying the pleasure of a woman's orgasm. What I mean by that is taking my time with her, I like to get her worked up, very close to orgasm, kissing, touching, being intimate without intercourse. When she's unable to remain still, beginning to struggle to hold off her orgasm, that's the perfect time to enjoy her orally. Yes this is difficult for the lady in question, but it's so unbelievably wonderful feeling her unable to contain her desire. Even better is to place a pillow under her bottom so her pussy is totally open while your lying between her legs eating her pussy. During the build up before going down on her I will touch but not insert my fingers or anything else deep into her body, just play around the outside of her pussy, running my fingers around the opening to her pussy. Be sure your fingers, lips, or anything you use is very wet and slippery as you retract the hood of her clitoris. As I settle in to enjoy her flavor, her movements, her desire, I like to hold her, feel her move, running my hands over her swelling breasts, her taught nipples.

Her instructions are this, You must NOT cum, keep yourself open, not only your legs, but do not tighten your pussy. As your desire, your need, your desperation increases, control your breathing, slow and deep. As you get closer to loosing control, open your legs further, breathe deeper, and most of all do not clench, concentrate on keeping your pussy relaxed, open.

Now as she's almost shuttering in desperation, her senses will be heightened. Her voice will be weak, breathy, her body very responsive, for now be very careful with her, take a moment to remind her to remain open to you. Eat her pussy until you feel she can stand no more, until her movements and actions tell you she is actually hanging over that edge, holding off her release by will power alone.

Once she is in this state, almost crying to cum, position yourself at her entrance, looking into her eyes remind her not to cum, that she is giving herself completely and totally to you. Take the time now to run your shaft through her lips, wetting yourself, coating your cock with her moisture. Once your shaft is fully moistened with her desire, holding her legs wide, remind her not to clench, to breathe deep, then quickly and fully penetrate her body. Stop, don't move, she will be fighting her need, her desperation, remind her not to clench, to remain open as you move, all the while grind yourself deeply into her body. Once she's getting control of her desire then you can again begin to move.

Enjoy her, watch her eyes, pay attention to her breathing, notice any spasms in her pussy. If she begins to contract and you know she can control herself, remind her to do so, if your unsure, yank yourself free of her pussy. Continue to hold her legs open and back, if she begins to cum keep her open and do not allow anything to even begin to touch her pussy. Should she regain control, enjoy her again, fast, show, whatever feels best, however continue to pay very close attention to her body, her reactions. Once your ready to cum, to release your load, do it deep, tell her it's about to happen, watch her as you tell her she must not cum, this is for your, for your pleasure. Enjoy yourself, your release, as you begin injecting her body with your semen, continue watching her eyes. The depth, the desperation is wonderful, the way her body ripples around your shaft is exquisite. Finish however you like, remaining fully inserted, moving, whatever feels best.

Now for the fun, it's now time to set her off, begin thrusting again, angle yourself to stimulate her, deep or shallow, whatever works get her off with your cock. It's best at this point to have her hands bound above her head, if possible having loops to place over her ankles to keep her legs open as well. The feeling of helplessness can deepen her feelings she has of loosing control, can deepen the desperation and need she will soon feel. Now continuing to watch her eyes, keep enjoying her body until you feel her first contraction, until she just barely begins to orgasm. At the first sign her orgasm is beginning quickly remove and and all stimulation she is feeling.

Whatever happens at this point, do not allow anything to touch or stimulate her in any way. She may fight, thrash, yell, scream, or even begin to cry, begging you to touch her, to let her cum. Watch what is happening, she is cumming, her pussy is trying to grip something, anything, her clit is searching for some kind of stimulation. Be sure to remain with her at this point, it will be difficult for her, her body will need what has just been taken away, she will remain swollen, feel internally congested, like she's missing the final pleasure we all love. Hold her, kiss her, lover her, take your time and stroke her pussy, watch her reaction, it may be possible to force her through one final spasm of unfulfilled desire, take your time, be gentile with her.

I must say I think we would all love to see her reaction to this.

In keeping with the pleasure through denial theme I think it is very important to include a bit or irony...

During the day, when you are allow to touch, stimulate, and edge, you are to concentrate on working your PC muscles. Clench, release, clench, release, and this needs to be continued. Begin with a good ten minutes, it may not seem like much, but clenching as tight as possible, holding for 5-10 seconds, then releasing for 5 seconds, and you will begin feeling the workout. Do this at least once each hour during the day, it's a good idea to make this a regular exercise as it can greatly increase your pleasure in orgasm.... when they are allowed.

The trick is, you are getting your body ready to grip, to hold tight to his shaft, and to give yourself a much stronger orgasm ~ however when you are making love, once you begin getting close, you are no longer allowed to grip, to clench. You MUST remember to remain open, your pussy completely relaxed as he moves within your body, keep your breathing steady, slow, deep, regular. In doing this you will be able to hold off your orgasm for a much longer period of time. This will be difficult as you already know how much pleasure you can have from your orgasm, however look at it as a gift, like you are giving away your pleasure so your lover can feel even more.

With practice, once your are actually aching, almost beyond sanity in total desperation, if you can maintain control he will feel your body rippling, almost gently sucking his shaft as he cums deep within you. The hardest part will be keeping yourself from actually loosing control as his cum is flowing into your body.

Keep your eyes open, look into each others eyes, the pleasure in his eyes will amaze you, the desperation in your eyes will make his pleasure even more intense. Chances are he will be so turned on enjoying you this way his cock will remain extremely hard, you must allow him to continue enjoying the pleasure of your body. So close, you will actually be hanging well over the the point of orgasm with only your willpower holding you in check. When your as far as you can go, when you know your loosing control, you can do one of two things. Asking your lover to make the decision for is even better, allow him to choose to stop, leaving your aching, swollen, - OR - He may choose to trigger your orgasm, however imagine how it will be, just as it starts, his shaft is quickly pulled away leaving you empty, searching for something, anything to contact your body to allow you to feel the pleasure, however that will be denied.

The reason I recommend the female be restrained during this phase is she will normally be unable to resist helping her body feel the pleasure that is being withheld. Also having her restrained allows you to touch and kiss other pars of her body freely as she desperately tries to salvage what she can of this interrupted, denied, stolen orgasm.

After some denial, you really should be forced to orgasm a number of times, it makes the denial even better when you are taken back to a place where you fully enjoy your orgasmic release. However this must always be in his hands, it works way better if you never know if or when your will be feeling your pleasure.

!! Very Important !!

Beg

Beg him not to let you cum

Beg him not to make you cum

As you begin to get closer to your release, instead of asking for that pleasure you so desire, begin begging your lover to deny you.

This serves several purposes as well. First it allows your lover to care for you by giving you what you are asking for, it removes any chance of your subconscious mind getting upset at your denial and his pleasure because he is after all doing what you ask of him.
Second this will help keep your focus, it will help remind you that your love this person so much their pleasure is what is most important to you.

Please let us know how this works out.
If you can be very detailed about how you feel during each phase of this.
It would also be very exciting for the two of you to video these sessions, just imagine, your ache, your pussy is full of his orgasm, and the two of you decide to watch a replay of what just happened. What a way to end the evening, he could again at least get you very worked up before the evening ends. Even better would be a repeat performance, your lover leaving you filled multiple times with his essence, his pleasure while your left quivering in unfulfilled desire, swollen, needy, being held as you softly cry into his shoulder as he holds you, together knowing your loved, you drift off to sleep.