Methods for... stopping.

Something that has worked for me is looking at it mathematically. If I have to do 15 edges, I take them one at a time, rest for a minute in between and then go again. Then I'm focused on what number I'm on and counting the time to the next one. It takes just enough pressure off the edge to do them repeatedly and keep control. The edges become a task or an assignment and while they are still pleasurable and frustrating as all hell, it makes them easier to do. I'm also cautious about how close I get so I don't slip over. Especially if I know I have to do a lot. I still get rather close, but I try not to toy with the point of no return. That's just what works for me.

I've discovered a few biometrics that could potentially be used to tell when orgasm is "imminent". I've been working on a microcontroller device with sensors and a vibrator, to create a kind of auto-teasing vibe.

I originally planned to make it internet-controlled so that I could remotely tease a young lady with whom I was cybering, but I'm no longer interested in cybersex/phonesex, so I'd likely not end up using it. Also, I'm a software developer, not an EE, and this is really a hardware design project, with lots of analog engineering in particular (or DSP, as a hack), so it was slow going for me.

I was going to try to finish it up so that others could use it, but it's not easy; there are several technical, biological, and commercial challenges. Specifically:

1) Getting some of the sensors to work reliably is non-trivial. If you look at the engineering that goes into, for example, a workout heart-rate monitor, there's a lot going on to get a good clean signal out of a noisy environment.

2) Every woman is different, so I'd have to do lots of testing to really find the "right" combination of sensor values and threshholds. And even then, it might take lots of tweezing to get it right. It's possible that, even after the development work, it wouldn't actually work reliably enough to sell as a product for edging. I wasn't interested in absorbing all of that risk myself.

3) It was fun initially as a hacking project, and I made good progress, but the parts cost money, it was taking up a lot of time, and I kind of lost interest in it. Who would actually buy this thing? Could I ever make back some of the expense?

4) Packaging it to make it a viable commercial product would be non-trivial, and involve things I don't enjoy, like molded plastic design, mechanical design, etc.

5) It would be very expensive using what I was using for my prototype in small quantities (like around $300/unit). Cost-reductions and mass production would be necessary in order to make it viable as a commercial product (it'd probably need to be under $100), but, again, it would be non-trivial to do that.

6) Selling anything having to do with sex on the internet is a legal PITA. Not fun. And shipping internationally (I'm in the USA)? No way, impossible.

7) Selling anything that attaches to the body with electricity has not only safety but legal implications too. Sensors put a small current through the body, and they have to be connected correctly to be considered safe. If someone did something stupid with it, I could be liable. Kind of takes the excitement out of it.

8) I could create a design and open-source it, and considered doing so, but then, how could I make back my costs?

9) Finally, even if I decided to make a product out of it, how would I fund the R&D anyway? I can't see putting something like this up on kickstarter (do they even allow "adult" products?), but I thought about it.

So, long answer, but I'm really coming (heh!) to the conclusion that the best way to do teasing is to have a real live person standing right here with you helping you with it. At least, that's the way I like to do it. :-)

That said, if anyone would be interested in experimenting with something like this, including potentially contributing to the development costs, let me know.