Ideas for my husband and me.
My husband and I want to try the orgasm denial. I've been reading about it but not really sure how to start. Our funds are a little low and all our toys are dead. Is their anything else we can do? Is it even safe to do right now, I'm 7 months pregnant? Any ideas? Thank you for all positive feedback and ideas. It's a hard thing for me to go public so I'd be greatful for no negative comments.
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Hello,
If you want a cheap yet effective vibrator, an electric toothbrush works very well.
As far as being pregnant, I seriously doubt that would be unsafe. But I've never been pregnant so perhaps Dr. Chicki Lewis or Dr. Mongojerry can better answer that one. ;)
pregnant
Dear Andrea,
I was pregnant two times. If you are healthy, it is no problem to have sex in any way. Just know: high arousal produces oxytoxin and this can give you contractions in the womb. Some are okay, let us say if you orgasm, a lot of them (e.g. by heavy edging) could lead to miscarriage. So be a bit careful and do not evove such contractions often. Additional: Ask your gynecologist about sex in pregnancy in your case. Is your cervix weak or okay?
You do not need any sextoys for good sex - what are the hands and the brain for? Each of you could explore alone (!) your own sexuality new by touching yourself in all ways you can imagine every day for about 20 min. You might orgasm afterwards or decide to not to orgasm. After this week you teach what you learned about yourself. The roles are very important to keep: one teaches, one tries to learn. Then change roles (the same day or another day). If you have sex, stick to this roles. One is strictly active (the pupil) and the other is strictly passive (the teacher). You may assign a certain period of time (30 min?) to do this.
It is very important to look positive at the learning, to allow for al lot of trying and faults and retrying. Try to get the most arousal out of it - the way to get there is secondary. Sometimes one does not dare to ask the other to do something. Try to agree upon that any wishes are okay and saying "no" to it, is also okay. Try to share fantasies you are ashamed of, even those who could never come true (e.g. being fuckt by a horse, whipping a women you fuck so hard that blood flows). Maybe, your partner has similar ideas? You never know if you never talk about it. The aim is to allow for faults, to be tolerant to each other, if you are not afraid to make faults, or to shock your partner, you feel much more free and this enhances lust.
By the way. No one said, you could do the selfexploration/edging without orgasm just for one week...
Be free! Have fun!
Camsub
my advice
not sure about the pregnancy risk, but you will be giving birth soon. you won't be able to touch or anything for six weeks. why not wait until you are healed and then start? imagine how horny you will be by then?
Camsub66
Hello,
It is not I that's pregnant, it's the author of this post. I have a few of my friends giggling at the idea of me being pregnant. lol (I'm into women)
Who is pregnant???
Sorry Andrea and Lady as I always say: "careful reading pays" - ehem, I will try to do so next time :-)
Thanks.
Thank you for all the great ideas! We have a plan set up for after our son is born, I'll keep updating when I can. Looking forward to the teasing pleasure.
:-) Some extra thoughts
Dear Godiva, please do not wonder, if you have no notion for Sex after the birth. I found it very strange to breastfeed AND to let my husband touch my breast sexually at the bginning. It was so demanding to be a mother, i had no thoughts left on sex. Maybe this happens to you too. No fun for the husband. You might want to talk about this beforehand an surch for help for your husband until you are ready to be a lovemate again.
Wonderful times with the wonder of new life and new sex!
sex after childbirth
I can't see any reason a woman can't have as much and as many kinds of sex as she wants as soon as her body tells her it's OK. Sex is such an umbrella term. She might be advised not to have vaginal intercourse, but that's hardly the same thing as "no touch." And since this is an O denial site, and so many O's involve the clitoris, which is not involved (directly) during childbirth, I think the OP will be able to have a lot of fun w/her husband in a great many ways.
Before you post a scathing reply, yes I have given birth.
cheers,
Wants