A Question for the Ladies
Orgasm denial is one of those crossover kinks that straddles the border of BDSM. Some who do it are well within the BDSM circle, others do it who would never consider themselves or choose to be a part of BDSM. And I can see why - denial can be very pleasurable, edging and teasing can bring great enjoyment, people can abstain for emotional, spiritual or practical reasons, or just because they find it interesting. One of the things I love about this website is that it's neutral like that - BDSMers are welcome, yet so is anyone else who enjoys denial, and no-one is considered better than anyone else. The drop down boxes when we post allow us to pick our own labels, which can change from post to post, from minute to minute even!
For myself, the submissive connection is that I don't have the willpower to make myself abstain from cumming, I need it to be enforced, which is where my Owner comes in. No Dom - no denial! But I have read posts from women who can deny themselves, and in fact may do so over long periods of time. And I find this fascinating, the non-submissive aspects of denial.
So my question is, for the ladies who do or are interested in any form of edging or denial - where do your position yourselves in relation to BDSM? Are you a 24/7 slave who lives the lifestyle, or are you an independent lady who does it just for fun? Did your Dom enforce denial on you or have you always been interested in these aspects of sexuality regardless of any power exchange?