male denial, hetero male

I wanted to introduce myself here and found this letter that I sent to a lover a few years ago while we were still in first throes of passion. I think it serves as introduction enough. Maybe some like-minded soul here will get to read it.

Today you told me not to caress myself – and though I tried to provoke you with my texts I obeyed.
But I am too distracted and tired to work so I thought I would write down some elements of my submissive fantasies to help guide you when dominate and tease me. I don’t really need to guide you because ever since I have known you I have only had to think of a fantasy or position and you have already done it. And when I am being submissive I like to follow your initiative rather than make to many suggestions. Sexually you are so telepathically in tune my desires. I have dreamt for so long about finding a woman whose desires match my own, who likes to tie and tease but also be tied and teased. I’m still learning to cope with the sense of joy and wonder that you bring into my life. I know that reading this will turn you on. You can either read it in one go – or one line every day. I will send it to you next time that we can’t see each other for a few days – so you will have sometime to think over and distract yourself.

Hello everybody!
For everyone who could possibly remember, I disappeared (or tried to) one day because my then girlfriend/fiancee/better half did not approve of me blogging here. By the way, she's now my wife/mistress.
What has changed? Not much really. I am just writing an idea (with her consent to share this idea with whomever might be interested) that had been put to good use in our relationship.
The idea is pretty simple: I am not allowed to have orgasms until I get promoted at my job! (and a minimal pleasure gaing) It has been 4 and a half months so far since I last experienced the full blown orgasm. That does not mean I have gone this far without release though, but release does not come in the orgasm way. We have tried a couple of times slow masturbation until I would ejaculate without pelvic contractions, and never once been successful, both times ending with a ruined orgasm. We have tried anal sex towards me and prostate stimulation/milking, and ended the same way. I'm sure we are not doing it right, but we won't be trying that again (she does not like it). Naturally there is automatic sleep release (happened only once if I am correct). Plus she has made me come in my sleep a few times, but I am not really sure when because we (well the idea was mine, implementation could not be) have a system to prevent me from knowing if I really came in my sleep or she is just f*ing with my mind. I have to wear a condom from time to time when going to sleep. I know that I might get a night treat. What happens is: 1) she gives me the night treat and removes the condom; 2) she does not give me the night treat, removes the condom and puts some juice from any (1) occasion condom she has somewhere, so when I wake up I don't know whether the sperm dried on my penis is from current or past treat. 3) the condom just stays on; 4) the condom just comes off; 5) no condom at all, just she making me come; but in 3 and 4 I know nothing had happened, and 5 is pretty similar to 2 if she wants to. That's f*ing with my mind too. Such nights are carefully chosen, when I'm tired and she's rested. Maybe I even had a drink or two.

Just a quick update on my ongoing orgasm denial project. I've been continuing with the masturbation practice and have managed to get a lot closer to the edge without coming and feel a lot more confident about my ability to ward off climax. I spoke briefly to my wife about trying to make sure I don't come the next few times we have sex and she's skeptical that it would work but is willing to try it out and see what happens which is great news. I feel that if I can get through that one time and it works out ok for both of us we can take steps towards that being our normal routine. I'm getting a lot more comfortable with idea of not climaxing - I'm not sure how comfortable she will be with the idea of me not climaxing though but if we can do it a few times it might seem ok.

I thought I might as well document my progress in orgasm denial. As I noted in my first post, it's something I've gotten interested in recently and want to take further. I had planned to practice masturbation to arousal without climax at least once a day to "train" myself to avoid orgasm. In fact, I've been able to do this several times yesterday just on little small occasions. I hope it proves useful to get me used to the idea of being aroused and coming down from arousal without orgasm. I stopped probably a little shorter than I could each time but I just wasn't sure if I could trust myself at the actual edge just yet. Also, each occasion was a brief snatched opportunity - a proper test would probably be to do the same in a more relaxed setting while watching porn or reading/writing a fantasy.

Hi,

I'm new here and I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm just over 40 and happily married, I have just recently got interested by orgasm denial themes and seen how it might slot in to my own sex life. I have a wide range of sexual interests and it changes over time but is mostly expressed through porn and fantasy story writing. My wife is much more vanilla than I am (although she does thankfully keep her pussy completely shaved!) and it's not really possible to translate most of the kinks that amuse me into real life sex and for the most part that's fine.

I've lately been finding the idea of orgasm denial to be quite erotic and a recent very pleasurable sexual experience with my wife has made me think I can do more with it. As is probably common, I've found that my and my wife's sex drive have diverged a little in that I want it more often and she's happy with it less often or is too tired for sex. So one time, a few months back I was for whatever reason or other quite horny and offered to my wife that I could just go down on her and she needn't reciprocate - it would be a "68", i.e. she could owe me one. It was incredible. I just concentrated on bringing her off, knowing I wouldn't be coming and after she came, we just cuddled and fell asleep. It was intensely satisfying for me, especially so as I hadn't been "satisfied" in the traditional manner.

This is a story I wrote some time ago, before I discovered T&D really. I only had to change the very end to make it work. This one is for the guys.

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Hey folks

Drydood here. I've been a lurker for a while and finally a
member.

I love to cum and I hate to cum. Love it because it feels
great, but then there is a big letdown, sleepiness, and
sometimes guilt. Loss of energy. Loss of esteem because
I could not refrain.

So I want to have it controlled.

This post is not so much a reveal, but a first exercise
and maybe an encouragement for other lurkers or males who
are intrigued with this 'denial' topic, but are afraid
to try it.

Well, I tried it, and and have played with it over the last
few years. Currently I am playing solo, and it's quite