Tantalism: A teasing or tormenting by the hope or near approach of good which is not attainable.

Welcome to tantalism.org, an exploration of the delicious tension arising from thwarted sexual release. We hope to provide a friendly community atmosphere, and a hotbed of eroticism for devotees of this kink. Diversity of input is encouraged, as we prefer to travel the less worn paths, including female denial, same-sex activities and the extreme bounds of fantasy.

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Female denial

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Little Girl’s Big Day

female denial | story | hetero female | hetero male | dom male | sub female | *torture | anal sex | blindfold | bondage | cunnilingus | discipline | gag | handcuffs | spanking
She arrived home from work and read the note trying to make sense of it.

Strip to your panties and wait for me at the foot of the bed. Today you are not my wife and I am not your husband. Today you will learn about obedience in a new way. I will no longer tolerate your disrespectful mouth and attitude. You will speak when spoken to but only in an agreeable and childlike manner. No questions, complaints, or arguments will be allowed. Follow my lead and we will be fine. Signed, your loving husband.

Time for some fun sweetie, take your panties off, lay back, spread those legs, now gently stroke her, feel every inch, just enjoy. Daddy thought you should have some pleasure and a big release from tension to get you all relaxed for our special time together. You would like that, right? Yes daddy, I would love that, thank you. When you feel close just tell daddy, ok? Yes daddy, I will, do you like watching me play with myself daddy? You like that pretty pussy so naked and beautiful? It is all for you daddy, I do not even touch her without your permission. That is a good girl, it is all for daddy, little girls cannot be trusted with such a big responsibility, they dont know what to do with it unless someone tells them, right sweetheart? Yes daddy, I am not grown up enough to know what I am doing, when I used to touch her I would be in a rush and get so excited then a little baby cum would rush out so quick. Thank you for teaching me to hold in that baby cum since it is not ready to be let out. I always send it back in now like a good girl, I am learning so much, daddy is such a good teacher. Only big girl cum gets let out now and only when daddy says yes. Are you proud of me daddy? Yes honey but today is a big day for you. I will expect complete obedience to everything I say, will you do that for daddy? Yes absolutely. Good because this is the most important day of our relationship and if you dont obey daddy completely every step of the way daddy will add up each infraction and you will be punished quite harshly. I just want to make sure you are aware of that now before you choose to disobey. Yes daddy I understand I will obey every word I promise.
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The Box

female denial | story | hetero female | hetero male | *rape | *torture | *violence | bondage | chain | discipline | fellatio | flogger | gag | handcuffs | harness | paddle | spanking | vibrator | whip
The Box

She dreaded the box. It meant total loss of control.

It took him six months to build with the proper tools and materials. He wanted it perfect and stopped at nothing to get it done exactly how he desired.

Sometimes, she was inside for 30 minutes, sometimes two hours. The first time she was placed inside he made her endure six hours and then promised that would never happen again unless she did something so horrible as to deserve it.

She did not feel human in the box, just chopped up into parts to be used any way he wished. And he was rarely kind while she was in there. He used his imagination to invent new ways to torture her. And the spankings were longer, harder, nearing the point of unbearable.

Good experience (Eve)

female denial | experience
Eve is a brunette, and tall. I'm a bit disappointed when she shows up, because she seems too "businesslike" for my tastes. But it is a common problem and minor. I chat with her a bit and let her know we won't be having sex. I tell her what I'm looking for and see the familiar relief in her eyes. Masturbation is a common request, but when I tell her she won't be reaching climax she seems taken aback. Excellent! It's tough to surprise these professional ladies.

Eve is dressed in a black skirt and an elegant blouse. I give her some sundry instructions and she undresses for me. I do the same and get comfortable on the bed. She is in the chair. She begins to touch herself and I enjoy the show.

Teasing and denial in fiction: As She's Told: a bdsm novel

female denial | book | hetero female | dom male
Thanks again to Reynard for posting about my just-released novel, As She's Told (http://tantalism.org/node/view/1934/). Teasing and denial have always been central kinks for me, and so they've been very central in my books. My interest has not been quite so much around self-control and willpower, however; locked hardware is more my thing. My heroine starts with the one and is moved to the other in the course of the story.

As She's Told is about the development of an intense, loving, creative d/s relationship. It's a book with rounded and complex characters, lots of imaginative kink, and a grounding in the real world. It is also -- dare I say it -- a well-written book that offers a lot more to the reader than standard pulp. And it's hot as hell. Eye-wink)
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I cant stop masturbating

female denial | miscellany
I am just a horny cunt. What else can I say? From the time I awake in the morning until I fall asleep at night, I am rubbing my clit. I rub it before I get into the shower, while I am in the shower, before I get dressed and after I get dressed. This happens all day long regardless of the activity or location. Actually, I do it until I fall asleep of exhaustion every night. There are days my pussy is so sore from all the abuse I give it that it hurts to touch it. However, I continue anyway. Even when on strict no-touch, I find myself rubbing on things around the house like the arm of the couch, stair railing, the corner of my bath vanity, and tools in the garage. I am addicted to masturbation. I simply cant stop. Im really not sure I want to now. Ive joined a masturbation addiction support group, but it doesnt help. The feeling of humiliation it produces only makes me wetter between the legs and I have to rub myself because of that. Its hopeless. I guess Ill always have to touch myself. This has made me so moist I can smell myself. So, Id better go finger myself before I fall asleep from exhaustion.
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As She's Told - a new novel by Anneke Jacob

female denial | book | dom male | sub female
Anneke Jacob, author of Owned and Owner has just had her second novel - As She's Told - published at Pink Flamingo. It's available as a paperback or as an e-book.

This one is more down-to-earth and contemporary, and there's even more focus on the denial.

Here's the blurb:

The ideal D/s relationship for Anders and Maia is nothing less than total power exchange — no games, no negotiations, no safewords. When the two stumble on to each other in an on-line chat room, the fire of their offbeat sexual desires ignites and draws them together for an explosive sexual encounter.

Take a string

female denial | resource | solo female | sub female | masturbation | rope
Take a string and fold it double so it forms a loop in the middle - take the loop and put it around your body above your pleasure center. Push the ends trough the loop so the string goes double round your body.

Move the string so the loop is in the middle of your back. Take the ends and let them hang down and move them between your buttocks and inside your pleasure centers outer lips - one of each side of the button of love.

Tie it hard so it presses against your flesh and move with every movement of your body. Each movement tugging and making you aware of the string going through the centerplex of stimulating. Each step making you horny, each step making you wanting it more.
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The Story of Dorean West

female denial | fantasy | story
Our fellow travellers over at blogspot are starting up an exciting experiment.

Essentially, they're creating an online persona for a fictional woman named Dorean West, who will gradually become submerged in the world of orgasm denial. She even has her own Facebook account.

It's going to be a collaborative creation, and everyone's welcome to get involved in any way they like. I guess there's likely to be a bit of contradiction

kim's last Orgasm

female denial | experience
Hi everyone, Sir NS finally let me have an Orgasm last week. It was five weeks since my last and i was ready to explode with sex. i did it while IMing with NS. The urge and force was an absolutely powerful shudder. i was sort of let down afterwords about it, to think all i had built up and the efort involved in denying myself. Also the almost instant desire to cum again and the re-charging of my sex drive was rekindled, to want it more. Are these feeling normal, the letdown and the stronger desires after a long awaited O ? Already i am feeling stronger urges only after about 1 week of fustration.

Ben Wa Balls

female denial | experience | hetero female | hetero male | dom male | sub female | coitus
I'm starting this with a question. What brand / type of ben wa has the best internal stimulating movements. The best balls are said to have springs or free moving balls within, for those that have used them, what do you recommend as best.


Use - working your lady over, have her on her stomach, starting with a nice back rub, get her relaxed, then switching to a nice deep electric massager, again work her over, further relaxing her. Continuing now after getting her relaxed, the massager is moved lower, her pelvis is in almost constant motion, reminding her not to cum a nice stimulating lubricant is used, her bits are open, having her remain face down her flower opens, all her tender bits are exposed, reminding her to keep herself open you continue with your fingers, her clitoris so hard, so exposed, she's beginning to ache. Now it's time, the ben-wa balls are cold, metal, heavy. One by one, coating them with lubricant, you begin by running them around her exposed hungry clit, slowly furthering her stimulation, once the ball begins to warm, insert it about 5cm. Now the next ball, again teasing her clitoris, reminding her again to remain open, not to cum, you continue to tease her. Inserting the second ball, being sure it contacts the first, you now continue teasing her clit with your fingers, slowly pinching it's base, rolling it, the pulling toward the tip, her labia so swollen, unable to remain still, she needs more. As her climax approaches, you have her roll over, placing a pillow under her pelvis, exposing her totally, you prepare to penetrate her body. Now coating your shaft, you further tease her with your cock, running the helmet over, around her clit. Watch her breathing, once she's again on edge, remind her not to cum, to relax, to open herself, then parting her flower, your shaft enters her body. Pressing in you contact the balls, pressing them deeper, into her body, moving within, teasing her, tantalizing her, enjoy her body, the way she quivers in need, desperate, see how hard her clitoris has become, sitting back, pressing deep, taking her hands you deepen your penetration. Watching, feeling her labia, clinging to your shaft as you withdraw, seeing her clit begging for more attention, knowing she aches for more, you drive quickly back into her body. Again the balls moving within her, teasing her, finally, erupting deep within her body, your semen flowing into her, impacting her deep, she's breathing erratically, so close, however you refuse her begging, reminding her not to cum, now allowing further direct stimulation of her clitoris. Again moving slowly, you continue to tease her, leaving her so very on edge, so very close, knowing the only reason she failed to reach orgasm her obedience to your instructions, just a few direct strokes, just changing your thrusting angle, just a bit more contact would have set her off, but no, denial is her pleasure this day. After finally withdrawing, again you run across her clitoris, further teasing her, again bringing her close, almost too close, keeping her aching as long as possible before finally breaking contact.