Archive - Feb 2009

I've always been a bit weird about Doing This Stuff In Public. You know, the whole why-inflict-my- lifestyle-on-the-nice-normal-people thing. Last week after much talk, my GF and I decided to try something at a movie. My stipulations were that all clothes had to stay on and there could be no danger of us getting arrested. She came up with a solution; I cut a small hole on the inside of my front jeans pocket and ran the wire of a bullet vibe through the hole. The bullet went inside me and the jack plugged into a battery pack that fit into my pocket. Just a small one with three settings, not the pulsatron - the pulsatron's a wonderful thing but discreet it ain't.

A really long time. I've decided to stop lurking. I'm looking for someone to control my orgasms and deny me while teasing me for as long as they desire. I've got to the point where I can tease myself and even edge without an orgasm, and the longest amount of days without an orgasm is 13. I want to be able to go longer to feel that desire all the time. I don't know that I would be able to go extremely long periods but I would like to experiment, and I think I have gone as far as I can go on my own.

May you catch Desire in the act of breaking into your house to steal your complacency.
May you tie it firmly to a chair so it can't possibly get away.
May craving fill its throat and splash across its face.
May it obey your command to wait wanting at your feet.
And may all its tears, be tears of joyful longing.

*lm*

Just a quick update on my ongoing orgasm denial project. I've been continuing with the masturbation practice and have managed to get a lot closer to the edge without coming and feel a lot more confident about my ability to ward off climax. I spoke briefly to my wife about trying to make sure I don't come the next few times we have sex and she's skeptical that it would work but is willing to try it out and see what happens which is great news. I feel that if I can get through that one time and it works out ok for both of us we can take steps towards that being our normal routine. I'm getting a lot more comfortable with idea of not climaxing - I'm not sure how comfortable she will be with the idea of me not climaxing though but if we can do it a few times it might seem ok.

I thought I might as well document my progress in orgasm denial. As I noted in my first post, it's something I've gotten interested in recently and want to take further. I had planned to practice masturbation to arousal without climax at least once a day to "train" myself to avoid orgasm. In fact, I've been able to do this several times yesterday just on little small occasions. I hope it proves useful to get me used to the idea of being aroused and coming down from arousal without orgasm. I stopped probably a little shorter than I could each time but I just wasn't sure if I could trust myself at the actual edge just yet. Also, each occasion was a brief snatched opportunity - a proper test would probably be to do the same in a more relaxed setting while watching porn or reading/writing a fantasy.

Hi,

I'm new here and I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm just over 40 and happily married, I have just recently got interested by orgasm denial themes and seen how it might slot in to my own sex life. I have a wide range of sexual interests and it changes over time but is mostly expressed through porn and fantasy story writing. My wife is much more vanilla than I am (although she does thankfully keep her pussy completely shaved!) and it's not really possible to translate most of the kinks that amuse me into real life sex and for the most part that's fine.

I've lately been finding the idea of orgasm denial to be quite erotic and a recent very pleasurable sexual experience with my wife has made me think I can do more with it. As is probably common, I've found that my and my wife's sex drive have diverged a little in that I want it more often and she's happy with it less often or is too tired for sex. So one time, a few months back I was for whatever reason or other quite horny and offered to my wife that I could just go down on her and she needn't reciprocate - it would be a "68", i.e. she could owe me one. It was incredible. I just concentrated on bringing her off, knowing I wouldn't be coming and after she came, we just cuddled and fell asleep. It was intensely satisfying for me, especially so as I hadn't been "satisfied" in the traditional manner.